No means no

Sometimes men (and women) can get a little too sexually aggressive.

I once had a man ask me no fewer than three times if he could "take off my pants," to which the answers were, "No," "NO" and "NO!" Apparently, his mama never taught him that when a lady says, "No," she means, "No," and not "maybe" or "possibly" or "ask me again later." This ignorant fool was promptly shown the door, and I never heard from him again (surprise).

Although some aggressors may keep asking you like they're hoping you'll change your mind, other aggressors may say they understand and respect your wishes, but keep attempting to do what you requested them not to. These people should be viewed with extreme caution, too.

A blogger recently told me in an e-mail about a man who she said pushed the limit and didn't listen. She wants to know if this is typical of men and if it is OK.

My answer is: no, it's not typical, and no, it's not OK. And that goes for men and women. Even if it doesn't lead to rape, which in this case, thankfully, it didn't, it is never OK to push the limits once someone says "no."

Have you ever been in a situation where you had to draw the line and someone had a hard time listening? Do you think it's typical of men or women to not take "no" for an answer the first time? What do you think about people who you have to remind that you said "no," but they eventually comply? Does that make them potential sexual predators or just slow learners?