An anonymous blogger recently left a comment on the blog stating, "Marriage is a joke!!!"
I would like to disagree. Marriage is only a joke if you make it one.
I, personally, take marriage very seriously. I only plan on marrying once and will do everything in my power to make sure that my partner and I are ready for marriage and right for each other when we do. It's not that I don't believe in divorce. I just don't think that people should use it as Plan B.
I will never marry someone I haven't been dating for a couple years. If we're really in love, we can wait. I will insist on pre-marital counseling and discuss every possible topic under the sun before saying the all-important, "I Do."
Unfortunately, too many people do take marriage as a joke. Look no further than television shows like MTV's "Engaged and Underage" where young people rush into marriage when neither of them can support themselves, much less a family. Or look at the very misguided "Who Wants to Marry a Millionaire?" that proved gold diggers are very real and do exist. Britney Spears, who I know is a far from perfect role model, is divorced and had a marriage annulled because she and her hometown best friend got drunk in Vegas and at the time, getting hitched seemed like fun. Playing slots is fun. Marriage is much more serious.
Marriage is not a joke, just some people treat it like it is one.
Do you believe marriage is a joke? Why or why not? Why do you think more people than before now are treating marriage as if it were disposable? Is there anything that can be done?
Friday, August 3, 2007
Marriage is no joke
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7 comments:
Marriage is definitely NOT a joke. Only those who don't take it seriously or who would cheat on their spouses don't deserve to be married. Stay single if that's your style.
For those of us who believe in spending the rest of our lives with one special person, it's a happier life for us.
Too many people are ending up in divorce - one out of two marriages, which has been the case for most of the past 10 years.
I agree that marriage IS a JOKE !! It is proven by all the marriages that end up in divorce. Why waste your time with all the costly fairy tail wedding plans...just live, laugh and be happy together without all the fuss of being tied down with a wedding ring on your finger. I know several men who do not even wear them so they can still play the field. How can anyone even want to be with the same person the rest of their lives. People change and outgrown each other...hence DIVORCE !!
I think marriage is very serious. I think it is a joke to those who marry for the wrong reasons. You do not have to have a big wedding to have a happy marriage. I think people divorce so quickly because they don't really want to work at making it work.
I think movies and TV have a lot to do with our "disposable" view of marriage.
In the movies, two people say "I love you" and then they get married.
Much like you never see anyone go to the bathroom in movies, you don't get to see the WORK involved in a real marriage. The movies and TV make it seem like ALL you have to do is love someone.
For that reason when two married people no longer think they "love" each other, they get divorced.
You shouldn't marry someone because you like them. There's way more to it than that. Its a financial, emotional, spiritual, physical contract.
Sadly, most people put more thought into buying a car than finding a spouse.
I think too many people think that "love is all you need" when it comes to marriage.
Sure, love is a VERY big piece of the marriage pie, but it also takes compatibility on many, many levels.
Even something as silly as household chores can play a big role in the quality of a marriage. Would you be content spending the rest of your life with a slob? If not, then don't marry him/her! Would you like to spend your nights balancing the books because your spouse went on a shopping spree and didn't make sure there was enough money in the bank? If not, don't marry him/her!
There are many things that make up a healthy marriage, not just love.
Love is a bitch..marriage is work.
Marriage...this word has such a different meaning for me. As a person from a totally different culture who has had a "traditional" or "arranged" marriage, marriage is something so much sacred, so much more "involving two families and not just two people" affair to me. It is interesting to read all the blogs here just to see how much cultures from opposite parts of the world differ on issues like this! :)
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