Revenge does not help a relationship grow

Ok, how many of you out there have ever been cheated on? You don't have to answer loudly, just be honest with yourself.

Ok, now that we all have admitted that, how many out there have thought that the best way to deal with it and stay in a relationship was to cheat on the original offensive party?

While the numbers may be lower on the second question, when someone betrays you it can be somewhat of a natural reaction to make them feel how you feel.

The only way some can think to do that is by doing what was done to them.

However, while it may seem at first a good idea, it rarely ever works out as planned. The person may feel guilty themselves. The significant other may not react the same way you did when it was done to you. Or the significant other could react more angrily than you did. Or worst of all, they may not react any way at all which is what they person was seeking in their revenge.

Either way it goes, I personally do not think it is healthy for a relationship because it should never be about intentionally hurting the other party. If you're hurting each other, why be in the relationship?

So of those who sought revenge, how did you feel afterwards? How did your significant other react?