Yesterday, one of my male friends was venting to me about how he couldn't seem to avoid "friend zonification"- his words, not mine.
See, every time he meets a girl, he always goes out of his way to be nice to the girl. He'll listen to whatever she wants to talk about. He'll consistently do favors for her with the thought process that he is becoming a contender for a romantic interest. The problem comes when she starts telling him about a guy that she is interested in or she pops up with a boyfriend out of the blue.
My only advice to him was that after he got to know these girls was to let them know that he is pursuing the friendship in the hopes of something more. I also told him it would be wise to do this before she feels free to talk to him about other guys. Though, it won't completely avoid being placed in the "friend zone," it also allows the girl to know where he stands.
What is your advice for a guy to avoid being placed in friend zone? Do you think there is any foolproof way to keep this from happening?
Tuesday, April 29, 2008
Avoiding "friend zonification"
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3 comments:
Don't do lunch.
"That's like the express lane to the friend zone," Chris in the movie "Just Friends."
Love it.
he needs to come date me. i'd love a guy like him. most macon guys are so absorbed in themselves that they can't see straight (or literally aren't) and they wouldn't dream of being thoughful.
first off he just sounds like he's destined to be labelled "friend". i mean he sounds like he'll pick up a girl's dry cleaning if she even jokingly asks. he needs to man up and stop doing what he's been doing because obviously its not working for him.
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