Recently, I heard a story about how a woman's children just refused to like her boyfriend.
She's been with the new guy for three years after divorcing the children's father after five years of marriage.
In all this time, she thought her children would warm up to her new guy. She said he often tries to extend olive branches to no avail. Whether it's showing interest in their activities or providing rewards for good performance in school and whatnot, the children continue to show resistance.
Now, she is thinking about marrying the guy, but she considers this one big hurdle to jump over. She's questioning whether she should do what she wants to do or not do it because she feels it would make her children not so happy.
On the bright side, her children didn't like dad's new girlfriend either. However, she said the children's attitudes don't seem to be bothering her as much.
How do you deal when your children do not like your significant other? Is there a future in such a relationship? Have you ever been in such a situation and found a way for it to work with all parties involved?
Friday, April 4, 2008
Kids and current S.O. don't match
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2 comments:
i mean if after 3 years the kids haven't warmed up to the SO it may not be wise to marry said person. i mean as a parent you have to think of whats in the best interest of the kids. especially if the kids are young. now if they're like 16, 17. to hell wit whether johnny & susie like the SO they're almost grown and can move out at 18
I'm sorry, but these stories make me kind of sick.
You marry someone you're not compatible with, you divorce him, and you expect your kids to be OK with it. (FYI - I understand that sometimes things happen in marriages, and that divorce is necessary, but I still feel for the children who are trapped in the middle)
Then, you find a new man, expect the kids to love him, and when they don't, you "debate" between your kids happiness and your's. I think this is VERY selfish.
What happens when you make babies with this new guy? Your kids are left "visiting" your home (assuming there is shared custody between the two parents) while your new baby gets to spend every day and night with his/her parents.
When you have kids, your happiness comes second. This might sound "close minded," in the world we live in today, but I call it good parenting.
The mom should spend time raising her kids instead of out looking for men.
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