Tuesday, July 10, 2007

Can you predict marriage from a first kiss?

In the movie Hitch, Will Smith, who plays a matchmaker, says some women believe they can tell from the first kiss whether a certain man is the one they are going to marry.

A first kiss certainly can tell you a lot about the future of a potential relationship. If the proverbial sparks fly and you feel a tingling in your toes, you can be sure the guy you're kissing is a match (at least in the chemistry department). You'll stay together for some time, if for nothing more than some fun make out sessions. And if the kiss feels mostly like, well, a wet tongue, then chances are the relationship won't go very far. After all, you're probably not going to want to lock lips again any time soon, and kissing is a component of a relationship. But despite a first kiss' ability to predict the continuation of a relationship, I would hardly say I could predict my future husband by the quality of his first kiss.

There always is the potential for a first kiss flub. Maybe you bump noses. Maybe you still have gum in your mouth. Maybe he ate onions for dinner. It is quite possible that a botched first kiss could lead to a fireworks-worthy second kiss and a lifetime of married bliss. You just have to stay in the relationship a bit longer to find out.

A friend of mine probably would disagree with Hitch. Back in college he said he was saving himself for his wife, and I'm not just talking about sex but also kissing. He said he didn't want to kiss any woman who was not his wife because he wanted it to be special. I know he has a girlfriend now, and I don't know if his viewpoint has changed, but either way, it's an interesting concept.

Do you think you can tell whether you will marry a person based on a first kiss? How important is the first kiss? What are some of your best/worst stories about a first kiss?

6 comments:

Anonymous said...

I don't believe you can tell if you are going to marry that person, but I definitely think you can tell if a second date is in the future...because, let's be honest, there is nothing worse than a bad kisser! : )

pjianek said...

i'm with roxy here.

there are other things you can tell from a first kiss...is he a sleazeball? is he new at this? is he trying to move toward something else? these things can all be very telling...

Anonymous said...

no,..you have officially ran out of topics

Anonymous said...

If you don't like the topics, anon., suggest a new one!

Anonymous said...

It's the other way round. Kissing someone you hardly know is playing with fire.
I think kissing should be something reserved for a situation where you have strong feelings for the other person.
Too many people just rush in and can't think straight. That's no way to start a relationship. At least a serious one. We're talking about marriage here.
Just my opinion.

Anonymous said...

Interesting to know.