So last night, I was watching a wedding take place on One Tree Hill, a recent development of mine in the guilty pleasure department.
Anyway, one of the main characters was getting married, while his old flame who definitely still wants him looked on. The bride was very aware of this, yet still accepted her as her fiancee's friend at the wedding.
I say red flag on the play.
If I was still in love with an ex (or at least thought I was), I wouldn't be at his wedding because I know it would be an emotional roller coaster for myself . Furthermore, if I was a bride, I don't believe I would knowingly invite my fiancee's ex who is still in love with him. That would just make me uncomfortable.
However, I do understand situations arise where an ex may just truly be a thing of the past. They may have been good friends and tried a relationship and it didn't work out but still managed to be friends. It could've been a fluke that happened 10 years ago and again, they were friends and remained friends. Usually, in these situations, the bride can even become a part of the friendship in her own way. When this happen, as long as no one is being phony, I guess the ex could be at the wedding.
But I think you know and feel the vibe when the friend who is also an ex would likely switch places with the bride in a heartbeat. That friend should not be at the wedding, especially if alcohol is involved.
What do you think of inviting your fiancee's exes to a wedding? What do you think of attending your own ex's wedding?
Wednesday, March 19, 2008
Wedding and exes don't mix
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I don't think exes should be invited to weddings, however I am really good friends with one of my exes. We were friends before and parted ways without any animosity. We've both moved on and we still chat and hang out. I would not be opposed to him attending my wedding or attending his wedding, I believe it's rare.
I think it's inappropriate, especially if the guest still has a crush on the bride/groom.
One of my favorite Sister Hazel songs is about this.
"Champagne High"
I wasn't looking for a lifetime with you
And I never thought it would hurt just to hear
"I do" and "I do"
And I do a number on myself
And all that I thought to be
And you'll be the one
That just left me undone
By my own, hesitation
Bridge
and for the million hours that we were
well I'll smile and remember it all
then I'll turn and go
while your story's completed mine is a long way from done.
Chorus
Well I'm on a champagne high
Where will I be when I stop wondering why
On a champagne high
I'd toast to the future but that'd be a lie
On a champagne high, high
Spring turned to summer
But then winter turned to mean
The distance seemed right
At the time it was best - to leave
And to leave behind
What I once thought was fine And so real - to me
And while I'm still gone
On the quest for my song
I'm at your - celebration
Bridge & Chorus
Your wagons been hitched to a star
Well now he'll be your thing that's new
Yeah what little I have you can borrow
'Cause I'm old and I'm blue...
Bridge
Well I'm on a champagne high (so high)
Where will I be when I stop wondering why
On a champagne high (so high)
Toast to the future but that'd be a lie
On a champagne high
Where will I be when I stop wondering why
On a champagne high...high...
So high so high you left me undone
so high, so high you left me undone...
I think that if it is painfully obvious that the ex is NOT over the bride/groom there should not have even been the contemplation of even possibly inviting that person to the wedding. But if the ex is truly an ex and there are no lingering feelings on either's side than it ok to invite that person. But only as long as the fiancee is comfortable with the ex being present on what is supposed to be the happiest day of his/her life
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