No, that was not an announcement about where I am in life. But that is a statement that more and more of my friends appear to be making as we move towards our late 20s.
For some, it's a joyous occasion because they are in a stable marriage or serious relationship where the idea of having a child only seems to be a happy addition. The father-to-be knows and he is excited and quickly sets out to purchase a football (for a son) or a shotgun (for a daughter).
However, there are others who find themselves in those less-defined relationships. It could be the friends with benefits type of situation where you and the person actually have a true friendship, but lack the romance. And then there's the purely physical relationships where you only get phone calls after a certain time of night. And those phone calls only lead in one direction- the bedroom.
Having this type of relationship and learning that you're pregnant can be devastating. It brings about all types of questions about the nature of the relationship. And on top of that, you have to tell a guy who is not in a relationship with you.
My question is, and I would love guys' input on this as well, how and when do you tell a guy that you're pregnant when you're not in a serious relationship?
Friday, September 21, 2007
"I'm pregnant...."
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What happened to "birth control"??? Unwanted pregnancies are just plain stupid!!! I saw a bumper sticker the other day on a guys car that said " I LOVE SLUTS".
You tell them as soon as you know! You didn't make that baby alone and you shouldn't have to try to figure out what to do alone. Some guys acutally want to be fathers.
How about not hopping into bed until you're married? And, don't get married just so you can hop in bed. My folks just celebrated their 50th wedding anniversay and I will soon celebrate my 25th. There's something to be said for good old fashion values.
As for the unplanned pregancy, stand up and take responsibility. Tell the father and then take care of your child. Don't compound your sin by murdering your own flesh and blood.
Most people who get pregnant unwantedly are people who didn't think twice before lettig passion take the reins. Simple as that.
People need to think of the consequences of their acts. That's not a popular idea, seeing how things go nowadays. I too think sex should be only something that comes with marriage. It's a serious thing. Sex can lead to making babies you know? Most people just seem to have forgotten about the babies part. They think only of the fun part. Call me old fashioned.
I have never been in your situation, but I know your scared and feeling alone. I too believe that you should wait until your in a committed relationship before you start having sex, but Im not going to preach to you like others that have posted to you. You came here with a problem, you didnt come here to be preached at or want to hear about peoples beliefs...HINT HINT PEOPLE...Have you been in this relationship long? Just call him and tell him that you have something important to tell him. Meet somewhere at a resturant. Just start by telling him how you feel about him. Then tell him that your pregnant. Tell him your scared and feel alone in this. Get his intake on this. But first, how do you feel? Do you want to keep your baby? Your the one that will be taking care of this baby for the rest of your life. Its the biggest responsiblty you will ever come accross. You ultimatly have to make the decision whether you want to keep this baby or not. I hope you find the answer your looking for. Don't worry about "certain comments" on this blog. Listen to your heart and Pray about it first. Take care and good luck!
Wow, you get all kinds here, don't you? Why is someone married 25 years reading a dating blog? And how naive is it to believe that young adults in relationships these days aren't having sex? And all birth control methods have failure rates.
But you've hit on a good topic here, and I can only offer this advice: if you decide to keep an accidental pregancy, and the guy was good enough for you to go to bed with in the first place, he really deserves to know that he made a child, even if it was a one-night stand. But don't expect him to step up to the responsibility, even if you're in a long term relationship. Be prepared to raise the child on your own, and if he wants to share the responsibility with you, negotiate from there. Just remember to get custody rights in writing so he can't decide later he wants the kid you've raised for the first ten years of its life.
To the last "anonymous"...the headline reads "Macon Love"..Dating -AND- Relationships in Middle Georgia". Get with the program!
What happened to abstenance? I am 24 and wondering what happened to loving each other enough to wait? The reason there are so many abortions, broken homes, young girls raising kids on their own, and custody battles is lack of self-control not to mention people dying of aids or suffering sexual disease. We have become a society with no self-control its what we want right then right there and I am speaking to myself as much as the rest.... Its sad really that we are that lazy and that weak. If we cant control ourselves to not have sex until we are committed what makes us think we will be disciplined enough to raise a child?
It ends up being the child who pays the price..most likely these unwanted pregnancies are a repeat of the past "lust in the moment' !!
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For the last comment you must didn't have anything else better to do. Anyway for the person who said about getting married and then plan to get pregnant. Well maybe this girls situations wasn't like that. U probaby was lucky and got married when you were what 17 or 18. Good for you. Now and day men aren't what they use to be. So stop judging people.
The list was probably the work of a man : ) I LOVE it !!! We want more ....
You tell the other person that the two of you were too dumb and stupid to use birth control or take extra methods to making sure something like that wouldn't happen. It's really not that hard to avoid a pregnancy!
You tell him the same way you had sex, nonchalantly and to the point.
I found myself in a similar situation two years ago. I was in a four year relationship with the "love of my life" that ended the moment I told him that I thought I was pregnant.
I now have the most amazing little boy in the world.....but his Dad is not in the picture what-so-ever. I tried to be nice and hope that he would "do the right thing"....at least want to spend time with our child....but I just now have been awarded child support.
My child was the result of that "failure rate" of the pill. Fortunately I am in my 30's and well-educated.....so I am not in the worst position in the world, but my life has really changed.
I come from a mixed family of adopted and "natural" children. If you are not in a position to provide well, adoption is always an option....but Macon is a small town....you might want to arrange to "stay with out-of-town" friends and family during the pregnancy so that you are not asked uncomfortable questions later. There are so many wonderful families desperate to turn your child into an instant prince/princess and you get to choose who adopts.
There is also abortion....but everyone I know that has had one always has a lingering wonder/regret.
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