Friday, September 28, 2007

Is a rebound necessary?

There's a new movie coming out that looks incredibly dumb, but I'll probably see because my boyfriend likes Dane Cook and my good friend likes Jessica Alba. That movie, Good Luck Chuck, is about a guy who apparently has some kind of curse on him that makes every woman he sleeps with dump him and then marry the next guy she dates.

So much for a rebound guy.

One of my boyfriend's friends has suffered from Good Luck Chuck syndrome in the past. Time after time, he would date a woman, get in a long term relationship, and -- BAM -- she would dump him and marry the next man she dated.

Many people warn not to get serious with the next person you date immediately following a relationship. However, the above evidence begs me to question whether having a rebound is even necessary.

For some people, a break up can come as a shock. These people often get hurt and go through mourning for the relationship. They need rebounds because they still have lingering feelings for an ex or they just want to have fun without the commitment.

But for others, a break up is an official end to something that actually ended long ago. If a complete detachment from an ex occurred long before the actual break up, it may not be unusual to skip the rebound altogether.

What is the purpose of a rebound? Is it necessary to rebound after a relationship? Is it possible to find true love with the person you were supposed to be rebounding with?

6 comments:

Anonymous said...

I think the problem is the guy. Either people are too traumatized after dating him or the contrary, it's all too perfect to be true :)

Anonymous said...

Oh come on, everyone knows rebound relationships are born to die - they're just replacement parts. Except for the stupid.

Some go on, marry and then oops, there we go again, they eventually divorce because it was never meant to happen because they were brought together to heal a wound. When the wound heals, later gator.

Admitted, some last because they're just too tired, worn out or broke to do anything about it. Stuck in mediocrity.

Anonymous said...

I know someone who was dating a guy for a long time, broke up with him and literally days later was dating someone else. So dumb.

She even went to far as to get engaged to him, only to realize she was just trying to avoid being alone. Which is the mistake most people make when they see the end of one relationship. They just dive back into a relationship, even pretend for awhile that its real.

People who don't believe, or use, rebounds are usually just desperate to have a significant other at all times.

ColorStu said...
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ColorStu said...

Rebounds are just a quick reasurance that we still have it to get someone into bed.

The problem isn't with the guy. The guy may take full advantage at the time but it's at the womans discretion.

The whole married after one night with a man is a fluke of nature, my friends. Take it with a grain of salt.

Pria said...

I don't think rebounds are always bad. It all depends on how the last relationship ended. But after one relationship ends you really want to be in another relationship.