Let’s say that you’re a sexually active 20-something year old woman and you begin a pleasant relationship with a guy. Everything is going great. You have great conversations. He understands you. He appears invested in your happiness.
It gets to be about two months down the line and the two of you have been very slow about establishing physical intimacy. In the middle of one of your great conversations, you learn that he is celibate and has been so for several years.
This happened recently to someone that I know. And she was taken aback in the beginning to say the least.
However, she got over it and decided to continue to let the relationship blossom with the guy. She does have her tempting moments, but she determined that good company over the long term is worth more than a moment of physical pleasure.
While I’m not exactly sure what I would have done in that situation, I think that if you’re sexually active, you should not be in a relationship with a celibate person if you don’t have the willpower. That could lead to infidelity or motivating, or forcing, the other person to give in and give up their willpower. And that would not be a good look.
What do you think of a sexually active person dating a celibate person? Do you think it could work? Are you a sexually active person who has tried to date a celibate person? Did that work out for you?
Wednesday, May 28, 2008
Can you just not do it?
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2 comments:
I am curious about why he is celibate... was this a decision made because of his past, celibate until marriage (or other set deadline), or some other crazy moment?
Good grief how times have changed. The question should be whether he should stay with her being that she is sexually active, whatever that means. If she's not having sex with him, then how is she sexually active? There was a time when he would be seen as a prize catch and she would have been someone to pass on by.
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