Monday, May 5, 2008

How effective is tit-for-tat?

Recently two of my friends were in very similar situations where their guys were hanging out at levels they deemed unacceptable. Both of these friends have children and were, of course, at home.

And they both came up with the same solution: Retaliation by reciprocity, They both figured that they would go hang out into to the wee hours of the night while their significant others stayed at home with the kids. Then, their guys could experience the same feelings as them.

As far as I know, neither one of them has gotten the opportunity to put their plan to work.

Part of me takes issue with this because I figure it’s better to just communicate when you are upset rather than “act out”. But then again, there are some people who just won’t listen and need some form of demonstration. But if you are going to opt for action, I believe it should be a last resort after communication attempts have failed.

What do you think of retaliating through reciprocity? Do you consider it effective? Do you think there are better alternatives?

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

i think that tit for tat is very juvenile. but, sadly, in some instances it is what is needed to make a point. but still sometimes that form of retaliation will back fire & the whole scheme will can & will blow up in your face. so that being said it is just best to be an adult and "use your words" instead of childish acting out