Tuesday, October 16, 2007

Group dates vs. one-on-one

When you're getting to know someone, do you prefer to go out in a group or meet together one-on-one?

Let's examine the pros and cons of both.

Group dates
Pros:
• The pressure to be entertaining at all moments of the date is released a little. With other people around, the spotlight won't always be on you, and you can breathe for a minute.
• You can see how your date interacts with a variety of people. How he or she treats friends mostly likely reflects the way you'll be treated.
• You can observe how your date talks about and treats you. It's a good sign if your date's eyes are glued to you despite all the distractions.
Cons:
• With other people around, you may not have a good chance to talk specifically to your date and really get to know him or her.
• If the group date consists only of his friends, you put yourself out for judgment.
• You could set yourself up for being in the friend-zone if the activity is too friendly and not date-like.


One-on-one dates
Pros:
• You have time to get to know your date on a personal level.
• You can measure his gentlemanliness or her classiness.
• You set the mood for how you want the date to go.
Cons:
• You may be nervous and unable to think of things to say, which may lead to an awkward silence.
• You may not get a whole picture of your date.
• You could need a way out of a bad date.

In the end, what it all comes down to is personal choice. I prefer one-on-one dates in the beginning and group dates after we've gotten to know each other a little bit.

What are some pros and cons of group dates vs. one-on-one dates? Which do you prefer?

8 comments:

Anonymous said...

I prefer a little of both. Some group interaction is fun espesically if you want some feedback on your man or woman from your friends. But in the end, I prefer one-on-one. I had an exboyfriend who only wanted to do group dates. After awhile, I kind of figured he was scared of being alone with me and since I'm a little silent (at times), he was probably scared of that awkward silence. It made me loose interest in him and ultimately led to our break-up.

Anonymous said...

Who goes on group dates after the age of 14? Especially in a new relationship....immaturity shows itself again here!

Pria said...

I'm not a big fan of group dates in the beginning of relationships (Once you are a established couple then it's great to get feedback from your friends. Group dates are ok if you guys already have the same group of friends.

One on One dates are best in the beginning. I always sugguest activity dates where you aren't waiting for the other to say something.

Anonymous said...

I thought three was a crowd!!!!

Anonymous said...

Group date? Is that what you call going out with friends? Since I am single and go out with coupled and uncoupled friends, does this mean I'm dating?

I'm dating?

I'm dating! Yay!

Why not call it a group outing or going out with friends or just anything besides a "group date"?

By the way, where for are these dates in which you speak? You speak much of these men creatures and having relationships with them but nothing about where to hunt them down. How about a blog on that, eh?

Anonymous said...

Anon. #4: When I say group dates, I mean dates with other couples, such as double-dates.

We could do a blog about where to find dates, but I'm afraid that some people might berate us for recycling topics because the issue has been brought up in the past. (See http://macon-love.blogspot.com/2006/11/possible-dates-are-all-around.html)

However, I admit the noted post above was vague, and we could open the discussion again in more specific terms. Ideas anyone?

Anonymous said...

Three is not a crowd. Three is a threesome.

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