Monday, June 23, 2008

Is there really such a thing as harmlessly flirting?

Just this past weekend, I was hanging out with a married friend during an out-of-town trip.

Throughout our trip, we kept encountering guys, some we knew and some that we didn't know. And whenever we met these guys, she never mentioned that she was married even though you could tell that some of the guys were very interested.

However, she would do a lot of flirting and jokingly proposition some of the guys. She would make sexual jokes and lots of innuendo. And yes, she was sober.

But in the end, when the guys tried to make a final move or increasingly show his level of interest, she would state that she was harmlessly flirting. Of course, the guys didn't see it that way. They felt like they were led on.

Do you believe there is a such thing as harmless flirting when you are in a relationship? If so, how far do you think it should go?

5 comments:

Anonymous said...

I think that some people are naturally flirty. As I have been told at times that I am. But I also think that there is a line that needs to be drawn and boundaries that need to be respected when you are in committed relationships. Married people should not be going around propositioning others while the spouse is none the wiser. Harmless flirting is a quick smile or smirk and batting of the eyelashes or a toss of the hair or a gentle caress of the hand. And even then you should not be doing these when you are in a committed relationship. Harmeless flirting is NOT "playfully" propositions or offering a sneak peek at the goodies.

Anonymous said...

sexual jokes, innuendo, and jokingly propositions are not harmless flirting. Your friend must have a problem if she leads-on men when she is married, then turns them down.

Anonymous said...

If this type of flirting took place when your friend was sober, then I wonder how she acts around men when she has been drinking??? Now that this has been officially posted what is her husband's response to this "harmless flirting"????

Anonymous said...

i'm feel sorry for her husband.

Anonymous said...

What kind of married woman openly flirts with other men?

Tacky and classless..

I hope there arent any kids involved