After being out of a relationship for awhile, many singles start to hear the phrase, "You're too picky!" tossed around. Maybe you've even said it to somebody or been told it yourself.
But what is "too picky"?
Some people know to a tee what qualities they look for in a significant other. These can be as specific as: blonde hair, blue eyes, has a six-figure bank account, wants two children (a boy and a girl) and ALWAYS does the dishes.
When you get as specific as this, it can be hard to compromise. Someone who fits into every category but one may get the boot, and, to me, this is indeed "too picky." Maybe it's OK if your dream boat has brown hair and fits the other characteristics. Maybe it's OK if the person makes fewer than six-figures but would make a great parent to your two kids.
I'm not talking about settling. That implies you are getting less than you deserve. I'm talking about deciding what qualities are most important to you (ie, deal breakers if the other person doesn't meet them) and then letting the other things fall off the list. You keep more options open that way.
What do you think makes someone too picky? Have you ever been accused or accused someone else of being too picky? Do you think you're too picky? Do you see being picky as a good or bad thing?
Thursday, February 28, 2008
'You're too picky!'
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