Dating is supposed to be fun, but sometimes it feels like applying for a new job.
Think about it. There's that initial contact, much like the initial conversation with an employer, which can take place at an event, a location or through referral. Sometimes, it takes place over the telephone
At this point, both people are assessing the level of interest, like when an employer sees how serious you are about the job. Unless you're completely intoxicated, you're pretty observant of the person, noticing everything from the person's style to their demeanor. The other person is watching you as well.
Again with the assessment of whether you want to take it further.
If you decide to do so, you go into the interview and resume phase, which in dating, is usually completed orally or through a Google search. Like a job, if you've had too many relationships (jobs) within short time frame, the interested party may question your commitment or promiscuity. If there are too few or none, the interested party may question your ability to maintain a relationship (a job).
The only difference often is that you usually don't have to take a drug test or any other test to see if you are up to the task. (However, I'm a big supporter of taking a full-blown STD test before entering an intimate relationship. That's just me.)
However, if all goes well, you move onto dating (employment). From there, it's just a series of promotions. With each promotion comes new responsibilities. You're constantly proving and improving yourself.
And then, hopefully, if you do it right, you'll eventually get promoted again and again. If something goes wrong, it goes into memory (on file). If it adds up, your relationship may end (you get fired.)
Yes, this is a logical way to look at it, and of course romance is thrown in somewhere along the way. However, like any job, relationships take work.
Am I alone in this?
Monday, May 21, 2007
We'll Get Back to You With A Decision
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4 comments:
One of the advantages of living in a town like Warner Robins is that you can often do "reference" checks, too! If you are dating someone from the area, it's not hard to find people that know them, and usually even an ex or two. When I started dating my BF, I knew a few of his ex-girlfriends, and some of his friends as well. I got to hear about the good and the bad while I was deciding whether or not to let the relationship get serious!
Haha. This is soo true!
Reference checks are a must. I don't really look to previous "employers" for this info, but personal references work pretty well to determine the character of a future employee of mine.
and sometimes after you have been working at a job (relationship) for years you get that itch to move on to something better. You start secretly shopping around and the thing you know you're interving for a new job while still holding down the original.
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