Christmas season is here once again and you've made your list of people to commit a significant portion of your paycheck to.
In a perfect world, you would have a clearly defined relationship with all these people, particularly those of interest. However, in the real world, you may be in a gray area.
You and your person of interest may be "tap-dancing" around how to further develop your relationship, whatever it may be. In some cases, feelings may have been expressed. In others, maybe not so much.
All you know is that you're out shopping and you see something that would be perfect for that person. But then you have to ask yourself: Should I even give them something?
If you decide to answer in the affirmative, the next question is what and how much you should invest in it.
Since you're not in a relationship, you don't want to invest a whole lot. At the same time, since you are making the effort, you don't want to just give them any old thing.
No matter what, if you make the decision to get them something, you also have to be prepared for the fact that they may not have gotten anything for you.
Do you believe in purchasing gifts for people with whom you have no defined relationship? If so, how do you decide on the gift for the person?
Monday, December 3, 2007
Buying for your tap-dancing partner
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FOOD! COOKIES! CHOCOLATES! CAKES! It's an inexpensive way to show the person you at least care somewhat, but you didn't have go go all out for them and put a burden on your wallet. It also keeps you from feeling bad if they don't get you anything. And food is usually a welcome gift that comes in all sorts of nice packaging this time of year. And besides, if this isn't a real deal relationship, your present and your situation has an expiration date anyway.
I'm so happy to see this blog... and I could use some suggestions! I absolutely intend to give a gift to my tap dancing partner. I'm the one keeping it as tap dancing and not a defined relationship, but we're both FINE where it is at! I just don't know what to get...EEK!
Becki: How about a CD? It's fairly inexpensive, yet shows that you know his interests. Or make the present a special date, like say, "For Christmas, we're going to go ice skating together. My treat!" Then you get to spend time together, too.
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