Not having enough sex?

We all can recall the days of watching the sitcoms where the husbands complained of only having sex with their wives on holidays or on special occasions. Or better yet, some of us even have male friends who speak of how their sex life was better with their significant other in the beginniing of the relationship, before they got married or before she had a baby.

Understandably, some ladies are just tired. Working day in and day out takes its toll when you also have to be the manager of your own home.

According to some experts, not having enough sex can cost women more than they realize. The linked article shows how devastating it can be to your wallet to not have sex for three months. A lot of money goes towards painkillers and movies as well as spa treatments and therapy.

Now, some of the figures, I'm a little wary of. (Who pays almost $300 for a vibrator?) And I feel even if you have an active sex life, sometimes it feels good to be pampered and talk it out on someone's couch.

But there is something to be said for the uplift in mood that comes after having sex, particularly when done safely in a monogamous, fulfilling relationship. It's exercise and relaxation all rolled into one.

Do you feel that you are having enough sex? If so, why not? Do you agree with the article's statement of costs related to not having sex?

He moved on, she didn't

One of the hardest blows to a person's ego is finding out that a former lover who you are still trying to get over — or who you thought you got over — has actually moved on before you.

And it's one thing if you had only been dating a few months. It's a completely different thing if you had dated for years. The other night I read online (I don't remember where, or else I'd link it), about a woman who learned her ex was engaged to another woman, just months after they had broken up. And she and her ex had dated for five years!

The woman had all the obvious feelings: jealousy, betrayal, disappointment, sadness. A situation like this automatically makes you question yourself about what's wrong with you. You wonder why — after so many years — your partner didn't propose to you but rather someone he barely knows (comparatively speaking).

These feelings are normal, but in such instances it's important to keep in mind that what one person does post-break up, has nothing to do with the other. Even just months apart can change a person, and two people can be drastically different than when they dated.

Have you ever been in a situation where your ex moved on or got married before you did? Did it bother you? If so, how did you deal with it?

I'm not your alibi

Here's the scenario: Your close male friend who is dating a mutual friend calls you up and says "If she asks where I was at Saturday night, tell her I was with you."

Now, of course, your male friend is doing something he is not supposed to be doing. By making this request, he's putting you in the position to be right in the middle of it.

You have a few options. You could tell him to go shove it and leave you out of it. You could tell him to come clean with the mutual friend. You could also tell on him.

When situations include more than one friend, it tends to become messy. If you tell, the mutual friend may still wonder how long you knew the guy was a jerk. You may lose her trust. Backwards, I know, but we all know how logic can change when emotions are involved. If you try to convince him to tell or threaten to tell, he's going to be upset with you. Or worse yet, he may pull one of those "well Raven told me I should tell you" again showing you possessed knowledge before she did.

My usual thought process is to stay out of it. If the mutual friend calls you that night, make sure you're screening your calls and don't answer it.

So how do you believe you should handle the situation? Should you serve as the friend's alibi? Should you tell the mutual friend? Should you stay out of it completely?

'We were on a break!'

In perhaps one of the more memorable Friends episodes, Ross and Rachel argue about whether it was acceptable for Ross to sleep with someone else while he and Rachel were "on a break."

In Rachel's eyes, the break did not signify a permanent decision, nor one that allowed the pair to sleep with other people. It was just some time off from each other. In Ross's eyes, a break was just that -- a separation from the current relationship.

Before taking such a break, couples should discuss the terms of the break that they expect each other to adhere to. From the above example, it is obvious that people have different ideas about what actions are allowed in a break and what aren't. For example, can you date other people? Can you kiss other people? Can you sleep with other people? These should be questions asked before a break goes into effect.

Personally, I think that if you need a break, you might as well break up for good. However, I know it is possible for some couples to take breaks and come back and have successful relationships.

What defines a "break" for you? Have you ever taken a break from a relationship? What were the terms? Did you end up staying with the person you took a break from?